Written by Ken Bernock | Follow me on Twitter and discuss on Google+.
Who are you when no one is looking? Your most truthful state of mind, where you’re honest, and upfront with yourself occurs when you’re alone.
No one is judging, looking, and making you uneasy. You’re more calm and worry less about what people think.
Unlike the outside and online world you can’t hide anything from yourself. The more you’re around people, the more they learn about you and discover your dirty little secrets. It takes time for people to learn what you’re all about, but there’s no hiding from within.
How different are you when you’re alone compared to when you’re with people? Do you do things that you’re embarrassed about? Maybe as far as living a lie?
In public you appear to be happy living the good life, just to go home and smoke crack and drink yourself to sleep. Or maybe you claim to have strict eating habits only to go home and devour a huge bowl of ice cream every night.
Do you hide your bad habits from your kids as my father did? He would never smoke in front of us when we were little.
Your time alone is priceless and is some of the most quality time you have on this planet. Don’t waste it doing bad habits that hinder what you want in life. Spend the time reflecting on and meditating about what you want your life to be.
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I had a good look at what I do alone this past week when my wife left for 7 days to Arizona. I look back at this great week, not because I’m sick of my wife, but I am a believer in quality alone time. It’s important for everyone to have time to themselves.
With this week to myself, much was done and accomplished, unfortunately not everything I had planned.
I finished Colin’s new ebook which was great, wrote a couple articles – Who you pictured might not be you and Your greatest creation. Finished What Technology Wants by Kevin Kelly, plus some much needed housework.
As I continue to think about my time alone everyday I realize how important it is for me. Much is done and created at this time.
I love being with friends, family, and of course my wife, but my time is just as important. I grow and evolve rapidly with this time to myself. Just relax, breathe, and think. Take in everything that has happened that day and organize into it’s simple form. Delete what’s not important and delve deeper into what is.
I truly have no idea how people go days or weeks without time to themselves.
I like to find a quiet place where I can concentrate on just me and my thoughts. Driving in the car to me doesn’t count. Your entire mind set is making sure you don’t hit anyone while getting from point A to point B. If you get lost in your thoughts while driving please let me know so I can stay far way while you’re behind the wheel.
Late at night or early in the morning is my favorite time, there are far less distractions that can pop up at these times.
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I hear about how everyone’s taking a digital sabbatical, and how more people are unplugging these days. That’s great! I”m all for it, but what are you doing with this extra time? Concentrating on bad habits, finding more distractions or really spending time with great people along with more time to be with yourself?
When you’re alone you hear the voice in your head loud and clear. What’s it telling you? Continue to hide and practice your bad habits, or enjoy the peaceful moment and make something special happen.
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