“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~Lao Tzu
Written by Ken Bernock | Follow me on Twitter and Google+.
One fall, cold, rainy night after work some co-workers convinced me to join them at a mutual friends party. Eminem was playing in the background, and people walking everywhere. I was at the Kitchen table drinking and playing games, laughing with friends.
Then, out of the corner of my eye I see this beautiful blonde walk by. Instantly I asked “who is that?” For the next hour I couldn’t keep my eyes off her. I started plotting out in my mind how I could get her alone to find out more about her.
I will never forget that night as long as I live. It was more than twelve years ago; the night I met my better half.
She’s tall, blonde, athletic, loves to have fun, smile and laugh. She’s simple and smart! She loves to run and hates to drive. Has horrible road rage, and sometimes has a sailors mouth. She loves to watch her favorite shows and hates to watch sports. Loves to be at home and hates long trips. She gets excited when we’re going out to eat and is depressed if she has to cook. She knows what she wants and always has a plan. She’s an animal person and will do anything to help one in need, even if it means tricking me into bringing one home.
She’s quiet and always there to listen to what you have to say. Even if it doesn’t interest her, she’s respectful and not rude. She’s not afraid to speak up if she feels deeply about something. She always tells me how she feels whether good or bad.
Love
She loves her family deeply and is always there for them. She would do anything to help them even if it means running you over with her car. You couldn’t separate her and the bond she has with her parents and brother. It’s like taking two pipes and welding them together.
She loves her girlfriends and considers them family. She would do anything for them, even if it means driving across the state to help one out.
Independent
She’s strong and independent. Often, she’s alone as I’m away at night with work or hockey and sometimes leaving for the weekend on tournaments with one of the teams. She never complains, just smiles and wishes me good luck as she knows how much coaching means to me.
She asks and listens to your opinion but, makes decisions on her own. She only asks for help when she truly needs it. I respect her for this as she is her own woman.
Loyalty
She works hard, usually going into work early and feels guilty when she leaves early. She does what she says and doesn’t go back on her word.
She’s trustworthy and has never questioned me even though I come home late and am gone all the time.
She’s always been there for me and I have no question she will always be by my side helping me fight whatever battles this crazy world throws our way.
I often call her my “better half “, she’s my wife. She’s just that, my “better half”. She brings the best out of me and has been doing so for more than ten years.
Some of you will ask why write this article and why share it with the world?
I see glimpses of what I have wrote above every day, but until I wrote this article I never viewed the entire picture at once. This article has done that for me and it feels great.
As far as sharing it with the world, I’m proud of her and proud of myself for making a great decision. Hands down the best decision of my life. Hopefully it will give hope to those out there who have not found that person they’re looking for.
Ever since I started this blog I have always wanted to write an article about her. Katie from Momentum Gathering wrote an article about her husband which was very inspiring to me. At the end she wrote “ my man is not perfect, but he’s perfect for me.” What an amazing thing to be able to say.
I will close with my wife is not perfect, but she’s perfect for me.